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How to Help Kids with Autism Calm Down: Strategies for Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) experience the world differently, often feeling intense stress, fear, frustration, or anxiety in situations that might seem benign to others. Given the communication challenges that many children with ASD face, these feelings can lead to emotional meltdowns or outbursts when they're unable to articulate their distress in socially recognized ways. Developing strategies for managing these moments is crucial for their well-being and can significantly improve their quality of life.

Establishing a Foundation for Calm

Creating a proactive plan to handle meltdowns is essential. Teaching a child with ASD how to self-soothe and regularly practicing calming routines can provide them with the tools they need to manage their emotions effectively. For many children, sensory toys like squeeze balls, fidget spinners, weighted blankets, or engaging with their favorite videos and activities can serve as effective coping mechanisms. Integrating these calming routines into their daily schedule ensures that they become a familiar and comforting part of the child's routine, making them more likely to be effective in moments of distress.

Techniques to Foster Serenity

When a child with ASD becomes upset, the following strategies can help ease their distress:

1. Empathetic Assurance:

   Start by acknowledging the child's feelings without attempting to reason with them or expressing frustration. Simply letting them know you understand they're upset can be a powerful first step in calming them down. Give them the space and time they need to self-soothe, ensuring they are safe and not in danger of hurting themselves.

2. Musical Comfort:

   If the child has a favorite song or piece of music, softly singing or playing it can offer significant comfort. Music has a unique way of soothing the mind and can be a familiar anchor in moments of turmoil.

3. Deep Breathing Exercises:

   Encourage the child to engage in deep breathing by sitting down and taking slow, deep breaths in and out. This technique helps decrease muscle tension and lower heart rate, promoting a sense of calm in both body and mind.

4. Designating a Calming Space:

   Create a "safe space" within the child’s environment where they can retreat when feeling overwhelmed. This area should be equipped with comforting items such as a soft bean bag chair, sensory toys, and anything else that helps them feel secure and relaxed.

5. Reducing Sensory Overload:

   Children with ASD are often hypersensitive to sensory stimuli, which can contribute to feelings of overwhelm. Recognizing and minimizing these triggers, such as loud noises or bright lights, by moving the child to a quieter, more subdued environment can help mitigate their stress.

Expanding the Toolbox

In addition to these strategies, exploring other techniques such as visual schedules for routine, social stories to prepare for new experiences, or even therapeutic activities like yoga and mindfulness can further support a child with ASD in managing their emotions. Each child is unique, and what works for one may not work for another; hence, it's essential to continuously adapt and explore various approaches to discover what best meets the individual needs of the child.


Navigating the world with ASD can be challenging for children and their caregivers alike. By implementing and consistently practicing calming techniques, caregivers can equip children with the tools they need to manage their emotions effectively. These strategies not only provide immediate relief in moments of distress but also contribute to a greater sense of control and autonomy for the child over their emotional responses, fostering a more peaceful and fulfilling life experience.

Anderson Behavior Group, of Alpharetta, GA, is a boutique child psychology practice that prioritizes children’s mental health. If you are in need of assistance please contact us here or call (470) 682 - 3536to speak with someone directly.

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